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Parents Shouting at Us Affected Our Confidence’ – Perez Musik
Ghanaian gospel musician Perez Musik has opened up about how the way some parents disciplined their children while growing up may have affected their confidence and ability to express themselves.
Speaking on TV3, Perez Musik reflected on his childhood experiences and said children who were frequently shouted at or scolded by their parents, particularly in public, could grow into adults who struggle to speak confidently.
According to the musician, parents of his generation often disciplined their children without paying attention to where they were or who was around.
“When we were growing up, our parents didn’t care where we were before they beat or scolded us,” he said.
Perez Musik believes that repeated public reprimands could leave lasting effects on children, especially when they are expected to speak, share their opinions or express themselves before other people.
“I also think that’s what made some of us timid,” he explained.
He noted that children who were constantly shouted at while growing up could become overly cautious because they were afraid of saying the wrong thing.
“Because of the way your parents will shout at you when you are in public, and you have to express yourself, you’re a bit laid back. You’re calculating if you should say something or not,” he stated.
Perez Musik contrasted this with children who grow up in homes where they are encouraged to communicate freely and share their thoughts.
He said such children are more likely to develop confidence because they are given the freedom to express themselves without constantly worrying about being reprimanded.
“You will realise that kids that come from a home where they’re allowed to express themselves are more confident,” he shared.
The musician’s comments came while he was discussing his own experiences as a leader and some of the lessons he has learnt from dealing with people.
Perez Musik admitted that he has sometimes been too harsh when correcting others, revealing that some people have left because they felt he spoke to them too strongly.
“I’ve also been a type of leader where I’ve lashed out at people when I didn’t have to, and I’ve discouraged them. Some people have left because maybe I spoke too harshly,” he noted.
He explained that although his intention was often to push people to perform better and get things done, he later realised that his approach could discourage people rather than motivate them.
“I wanted to see things done in a certain way and it’s not being done. Maybe I expressed myself wrongly in a way that I shouldn’t have. At that moment I thought I was pushing the person to get the work done, but it’s not seen like that,” he added.
Perez Musik also reflected on the importance of recognising that people have different personalities and approaches to work.
“You just have to understand that people are different. The people who will come in later are those who will make the thing more beautiful, but that doesn’t mean you neglect those you started with,” he said.
His reflections highlight the importance of how parents and leaders communicate with the people they are responsible for, particularly when correction is necessary.